As Salma Hayek said in her latest interview with Net-A-Porter “Women work harder than men and demand more of themselves, yet they have the sensation they don’t do enough” (The Edit August2017, Net-A-Porter )*. It’s true we live a busy lifestyle nowadays. We want to do it all and take care of everyone which is admirable, yet from time to time and through all the chaos, we forget about and end up neglecting ourselves.There are many of us who think living a normal life, having a routine job and lifestyle is in opposition of taking care of ourselves as an individual in many ways. Or in order to do so we need lot’s of money and free time. This post is for all young women/mothers out there who take care of everyone and everything except themselves. Here are suggestions that you can use to treat and take care of yourself.
1-Wake up 15 minutes earlier
I know you don’t want to hear this but it’s inevitable. This is the first and most important step. You need some alone-time in your daily schedule ,even as little as 15 minutes, that you won’t do anything for anyone else but you. This is your time, use it the way you want just make sure that you are alone and there is no distraction. Choose your favorite spot around the house and read your favorite novel. Go for a quick walk. Do whatever you like, just make sure you’re doing it for yourself. I love to do some meditation or have a cup of tea on the balcony when the weather is fine. It will do wonders for your physical and mental health.
2-Take care of your body
Your body is the only one you get. You can replace almost everything in your life except your health. Take care of your body. Once in a while check your diet and make some changes to keep yourself at the top of your game. I think it’s a good idea to ask help from a professional. The same rule applies to your workout and exercise routine. Your body will adopt itself, so to get better results change is unavoidable. If you don’t have time or money to go to the gym there are lots of free at-home workout apps that you can use. Remember “A strong body makes the mind strong.” **
3-Take advantage of dead-times
We spent lots of time between places, whether it’s driving or using public transportation. These hours being waisted by listening to radio, music or day dreaming. Use this time wisely. Audio books and audio courses are two of the best options. They will let you choose exactly what you’re feeding your mind. My personal app is Audible (read about it here). Make a conscious decision on how you’re spending your time since it determines who you really are.
4-Get a Treatment
Once a month treat yourself with something special. Whether it’s a simple hair cut, foot massage or just having a cup of coffee at your favorite coffeeshop. Do it as a gesture of gratitude toward yourself for all the work you’ve done during that month. It doesn’t need to be something extraordinary just a symbol of recognition. Since I love stationery accessories and cute notebooks, that’s what I buy for myself from time to time. It may sound weird but it makes me feel good. Find small things that can lift your spirit and enjoy them.
5-Pay attention to your love life
I think love is source of happiness. Although this love can be love you’re feeling for your child or parents or even life in general, being cherished physically and spiritually is what we all need. Knowing that someone cares for you, listens to you and stands by you during this journey of life is as necessary as physical contact with another human being. It is crucial to stay connected with your partner. Don’t let all those worries and tiredness get between you two. Take this matter seriously and remember that it is a two-way street, you give and take.
These are results of my personal experience as a thirty-something years old woman. Hopefully it will give you some ideas and will help you be more kind and caring toward yourself.
*Link to the interview
**Quote by Thomas Jefferson.